One Last Gratitude Post

Have you ever suffered from a broken heart, dear friend and devoted reader? Well, I have. It was so sad, as broken hearts generally are. When it became evident to me that He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named was no longer interested in me, I was completely bereft. I was sure that no boy would ever like me again, that I would never marry, that my eggs would all rot away inside my body, unfertilized, blah blah blah.

Even in the midst of my I-can't-believe-it's-over angst, I knew one thing for certain: that even if I did manage to find another boy who would succumb to my charming, womanly wiles, I would never love the new boy's family like I had loved the family of He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named.

When I was with that family, I felt like one of them. I could stay up talking to him until one in the morning and then go into his sisters' bedroom and chat with them for another couple of hours. It was like chatting with my own sisters. We had so much in common and it was really easy to be with them. I loved the warm feeling in their house and enjoyed exchanging letters with one sister when she was on her mission. It was wonderful and unique and I knew that it couldn't possibly happen like that all the time. Frankly, it only added to my sorrow when he broke my heart.

I first met most of my Michael's siblings on my wedding day, after I had married their brother. We had no history of late night heart-to-hearts. I was right that my relationship with my in-laws is different than it was with that other family, but I don't know why I worried. I love my in-laws and wouldn't trade all their fun personalities for all the "we're so much alike!"-s in the world.

Cousin Love

This Thanksgiving we went to my brother- and sister-in-law's house to feast. The kids were all great as they played with their nine cousins in attendance. The adults had fun chatting, joking and laughing at each other, as we always do. We had soooo much food that even after 13 adults and 14 children ate until they couldn't eat another bite, it looked like most of the food was untouched. I even managed to make enough rolls that there were left-overs (a phenomenon that has never before occurred at a Hunter family gathering)!

Six of us crammed onto the couch sardine-style to aid in our digestion. We were trying to get ready to move on to dessert. And laughing at my Michael sticking out his belly. Seriously, you've got to click on the photo to see the full hilarity. It was awesome.

On Saturday, another brother- and sister-in-law treated all the nieces and nephews to tickets to see Cirque du Soleil's Kooza. Not wanting to be left out of the fun, the parents of the kids all bought their own tickets to see the show, as well. I wasn't sure if I would like it, truth be told, but I must confess: I'm a believer now! It was amazing! The show was so entertaining--for young and old. I'm sure I would have liked the show no matter what, but the whole experience was made more fun by sharing it with many of my siblings-in-law and nieces and nephews.

Two families escaped the Big Top area before I got my camera out, but here are the rest of us!

In this final post of my "BE Grateful" month, I want to explicitly declare how grateful I am for my in-laws. I love these people. I was right when I thought I'd never love my in-laws the way I loved that other family. I love them more! I love their generous hearts, their quick wit and their never-ending hugs. I never could have imagined a better group of people to have as a family when I married!

Flashback Friday!

July 1994 found my sister, Amber, and I as college roommates. We were attending BYU's Spring and Summer Terms; it was the start of my junior year and the end of her senior year. We spent the summer eating chocolate chip pancakes for breakfast and chocolate chip cookie dough for dinner. We ate lunch on campus where the Bookstore sold Kit Kat's--3 for $ .99. You do the math.

Clearly, neither of us was enrolled Food Science Nutrition. We were in the same French Phonetics class, though. That was an interesting experience!

Anyway, on to the photo. We had a long weekend in July (for the Utah state holiday of Pioneer Day) and decided to buy plane tickets to go to Arizona and visit our maternal grandparents. What a fun trip it was! We got to visit with cousins we don't see much and stay with our mother's parents. The above photo is of my grandparents, my sister and me on that visit.

Thanks to a plethora of photos I have of this trip, I know that we went to the lake to swim with cousins and that we went out for ice cream with my uncle. But I don't need a photographic reminder to pull this little beauty out of the recesses of my memory:

Granny was so proud that her two college student granddaughters had come to visit her and introduced us as "college girls" to whomever would listen. But the best comment of all came out of her mouth in her kitchen when she was talking to Amber and me alone. She gushed, "I sure am proud of you girls...going to college and all...keeping your legs shut...not like your cousins here..."

Amber's and my eyes got as big as monster truck wheels. We bit the insides of our cheeks to keep from laughing. Did Granny just say what we thought she said?

Yep! She sure did.

That was Granny. This visit was the last time I saw my Granny. Say what you will about her, but I left her house that summer knowing that she was proud of me for continuing my education. And please know that she did love all her grandchildren and great-grandchildren even if she sometimes made less-than-flattering remarks about some of us.

I am grateful for airplanes and the flights that allowed us to visit our family that summer. I am also thankful for grandparents and their ability to love beyond reason. I'm even grateful for Granny and her negativity--without it, I wouldn't have this funny story to share!

Fabulous Foursome Reunion 2008

Last Saturday, I hosted a little dinner for my closest friends from high school and their families. You might remember when we got together last summer for a swimming party at Renee's parents' house. Well, we didn't start coordinating our calendars this year until July, which put the first Saturday when we were all four available to get together as November 15th. We are four busy gals, I'll tell you what!


Our visit was worth the wait; we had a grand time. Our eleven children are all ages 10 and under and consist of four girls and seven boys. My house was a little chaotic, as you can imagine. Thankfully, the kids seemed to get along well in spite of the fact that they can barely remember each other from year to year.

We heard a lot of comments like this: "Mom, the boy in the striped shirt is playing with me." Or "Someone is being mean to me." Renee asked a disqualifying question to that child, "Was it a boy or a girl?" "A girl." Renee proudly exclaimed, "It's not mine!" It was funny. Teensy seemed to take a liking to Renee's son, Joshua. There might have been some hero worship of Mason, as the eldest boy in the brood.

My favorite part about getting together with these girls is just how easy it is to be their friend. There is just an ease in friendships you've had for almost thirty years. We catch up on each other's siblings, check if there's some gossip on fellow classmates that one of us doesn't know yet, laugh about silly things from the past and laugh about current problems like preschoolers coming into our rooms at night.

Together, we've started elementary, middle, and high school; mourned the passing of loved ones; fallen in love; nursed broken hearts; gotten married; and become mothers. And I'm so thankful that we've kept in touch. Even if we only get to see each other in person one day a year, I'm thankful for that day and all the wonderful ones together that have preceded it.

Girls' Night Out!

Last summer, I got myself hooked on a little television program called "So You Think You Can Dance." It's quite enjoyable to watch, I must confess.


Well, thirteen of the top dancers from last season's show were on tour and came to Baltimore last week. I just had to go. You might think that there were mostly young girls there, but I saw just as many groups of us "older gals" there to enjoy the show.


Tracy scored us some great seats right on the floor and I screamed like a school girl for my favorite dancers and dances. I seriously was hoarse by the end of the night. And I was half-convinced that I could so be a dancer (if I were at all flexible, lost 80 pounds and had ever studied a day of dance in my life). I mean, these people make it look so easy! And fun!


Highlights of my evening with the girls include:
* Alex getting enough Chinese food for Tracy, herself and me to feed Rhode Island
* Driving to and from Baltimore with Tracy, Alex, Kellie and Sara and chatting up a storm with them
* Alex twirling her fingers as she exclaimed, "He's wearing the pants! He's wearing the pants!" over Joshua's legendarily-tight Samba pants
*Tracy's mad-dash to the T-shirt tables to scope out something other than an Edward shirt for her new Fall wardrobe
*Alex turning to me--when Will's shirt was off--and saying, "He's like a Roman god!"
*Really seeing Chelsea and Mark perform "Bleeding Love"--Live!
*Alex forbidding me to post any of her other comments on my blog
*Sweet Gev--there's nothing he won't do to entertain the masses
*Waving at my sister, who was sitting with her friends, across the crowded arena
*Seeing my friend Jenni one more time before she went home to Colorado


I'm so thankful I have such fun friends and that we got to share this fun night. And I'm glad there are entertaining people on this earth who really know how to dance!!

Judo Promotions

As you know, dear friend and devoted reader, my Michael and Mason started taking Judo together about a year ago. They did stop for baseball season and summertime, but they've been back in the swing of things for the past couple of months. Saturday was Mason's first promotional evaluation.


He was rather nervous, to say the least. He had trouble deciding if he wanted to do the test and participate in the tournament or just take the test. He went back and forth on this decision. After seeing the gymnasium full of hundreds of strangers he declared that he didn't want to do either.


We told him that it was up to him what he chose to do. In the end, he took the test and pulled his card out of the tournament. At first, he seemed very shy and unsure, but as the testing went on he became more confident. Before too long, he was throwing another boy onto the floor with gusto.


We are so proud of Mason, not for passing his first test (which he did, in spite of not having the advantage of showing his stuff to the judges during the tournament), but for choosing to take that test--in front of all those strangers--even though it scared him to tears.


In the spirit of gratitude, I would like to say that I am thankful for my Michael's idea that he and Mason take Judo together. I am grateful that they both just got promoted to the next level (the adult promotions are on a separate day, but Michael passed, too). And I'm happy that Maia has decided to join them on their Tuesday nights at the Judo club. I hope that she, too, will learn to do things outside her comfort zone.

In the Name of Girl Bonding

Last week, my sister, Amber, invited my little girls and me to come over to her house and play. It was a federal holiday, so she had the day off work.

Aunt Amber spoiled us with a lunch of delicious taco soup (recipe courtesy of my little sister, Whitney, who repeatedly called us during the day, justifiably accusing us of having sister fun without her) and a fresh batch of cookie dough. And some baked cookies, just for good measure. She also let the girls craft away with all manner of glitter and glue in her immaculate condo.

Teensy and Kenna cannot contain themselves when they are near Amber's rather extensive jewelry collection. They hardly know which necklace or bracelet to accessorize with first. Kenna excitedly reported to Aunt Amber that "these red earrings are beautiful!" while gesticulating with her little fingers.


Teensy eventually moved on to giving Aunt Amber a make-over. This girl is a natural born hair stylist, if you ask me. She gifted Amber with not one, not two, but four
ponytails at once! Then, she topped the look off with a pink feather boa. Amber was ready for a night on the town, to be sure!


I decided that I needed a turn to try a new curling technique I'd heard about. I had to twist Amber's arm to get her to let me play with her hair (yeah, right). Before long, I dazzled her with my newly-acquired hair skills and spoke of plans for our annual New Year's Eve make-overs.

Well, Amber wanted to reciprocate and try the curls on me. I tried to tell her that my hair is too short to put any kind of cascading curls in, but she wouldn't be deterred. What's a little sister to do? I took a turn on the floor sitting between her feet.

Long story short: she made me look like Betty Rubble. We laughed so hard I had tears rolling down my face and we both might have dribbled in our pants.


I was reminded of a time about twenty years ago when I let Amber wax my eyebrows and she dripped the hot wax on my eyelashes. I had a giant bald spot in my eyelashes and my mom scolded me! "That's your own dumb fault," Mom said, "you know your sister is an accident waiting to happen and you let her near you with hot wax!"

Well, the same prinicple applies here. I knew my hair was too short, but I let my sister near me with a curling implement.

It was worth it, though, to spend the morning with my little girls and their fun Aunt Amber. I am so grateful for sisters and lucky to have three of them!

Through Teensy's Eyes

A little while ago, I ran Janae to the airport and left my two little girls here in my sister-in-law's capable hands. After I returned, my sister-in-law confessed to me that Teensy had gotten a hold of my camera in my absence. I had forgotten the incident until I later downloaded photos onto my computer. I had a good laugh as I saw all the photos Teensy had taken before surrendering my camera to her aunt. Enjoy!


Here's a cousin eating lunch. This little guy thinks that all junk food originates at Aunt Mendy's house. In my defense, I fed him apple and pear slices and cookie dough for snacks!


Here's one of Auntie with her baby girl--clearly not registering that Teensy has my camera and is on a photo spree.


Your guess is as good as mine on this one. Who knows what the heck this is?


This is a jack-o-lantern she painted in preschool in October. It's on display on the fridge. Apparently, she thought that it's beauty should also be preserved digitally.


Here's a view of my dining room wall I don't normally see. I see the photo collage head on, but for Teensy it's from an angle.


Here's a close-up of one of Teensy's treasured blankies. She needs something silky to suck her thumb and this is one of the satin-bound blankets she uses.


Look at this baby cousin's big blue eyes! Adorable!


So, remember when I was telling you that Teensy loves her blankies? Here's another one! She really loves her blankies.


Teensy also really loves her little sister, who is featured in her next few shots.


Here, Teensy expertly captured the squishiest, most squeezable patootsky on the planet. I grab this thing about 3784 times a day. I just can't help it.


I can't help but (no pun intended) wonder: did her sister know that countless shots of her bum were being taken? If she did, I can only imagine the giggling that occurred between the two of them.


I guess Teensy likes my decorating; this is the second wall she photographed. At least my five year-old likes my vinyl lettering--take that, Seriously So Blessed!


Teensy snapped this classic picture of a picture. This is our family picture from two years ago. I actually was so rushed to get us out the door to this appointment that I forgot to put on a bra! Yep, I'm braless in this family portrait. Not everyone can get away with that you know. I'm just one of the lucky ones.



Here, Teensy made it back to the kitchen where she found her aunt feeding her baby cousin some mashed up peas. Look up, Auntie! There's a preschooler on the loose with her mom's good camera!


Finally, a self-portait of the artist/culprit. Clearly, she hasn't perfected this task yet. Don't worry, I see plenty of practice in her future; a camera is at the top of her Christmas list!

BE Grateful!

Quarterly, the women of my church meet together at Home, Family, and Personal Enrichment Meeting. At our last meeting, Erin gave an excellent overview of a book written by our church's late president, Gordon B. Hinckley. The book is entitled Way to Be!: 9 ways to be happy and make something of your life. While I listened to Erin remind of us of the simple advice President Hinckely gives in the book, I got the idea of doing a little series on my blog highlighting these practical nine ways to be.

Since it is November, I am going to start with "Be Grateful."

On Monday night, my family and I made a little "gratitude tree." Earlier in the day, I cut out leaves of various colors and shapes (and by "I," I mean I forced my artistic friend Colette to help me). Then, I attached the leaves to a little string. I sent Maia and Mason into the woods behind our house (affectionately called "Terebithia" by my offspring) to retrieve a small, dead tree branch.

During our family night, I gave the kids pens and had them write something they were thankful for on each leaf. (Naturally, I wrote Mackenna's leaves for her.) I loved seeing what the kids came up with! Here are my favorites from each child: Maia's "Books to read," Mason's "Life," Marlee's "Famule" (that's five year-old for "family") and Mackenna's "Big Teddy Bear" (I think it's important to note here that Mackenna also has a leaf that reads "Little Teddy Bear").


Then we talked about why it is important to be grateful. Thinking about all the wish-I-had's just makes you grumpy. When our thoughts are focused on all the wonderful things we do have, we are happier. It's that simple.

I was thinking about this the other day after posting my "Wish List." I was reminded, yet again, to think of about the big, awesome pantry in my kitchen instead of the dated, warping cupboards. When my thoughts turn to my pantry, I am happy.

So, this month I am really going to try to focus on the great things I have and the wonderful people I know and feel grateful for them. In the spirit of Thanksgiving, won't you join me?

Voting Makes Me Cry

I am not a very politically-minded person. Until this year, I'd never concerned myself too much with that whole business and had not even watched the debates. I guess now that I'm all grown up I figured it was time to be more informed than usual.

Truth be told, I didn't really like what I saw. I couldn't get excited about Obama or McCain. While listening to their debates I found myself wondering which man's ideas seemed less crazy. I know that many people feel passionate about their chosen candidate; I applaud that devotion. I just didn't feel it.

Since I didn't feel sure about who I wanted to vote for, I was filled with angst over the decision of who would get my vote. I listened, read, prayed, and meditated for help to make this important decision.

When I entered my assigned polling place, all of my angst melted away as I looked around me. I saw people of African, Asian, and Middle Eastern descent dressed in police uniforms, professional work suits, work-out clothes and casual wear. We were a mishmash of all kinds of people, there together because we love our country and want it to move smoothly in a good direction. But also there because of an even more important reason: we can be there, voting.

This little thought got me all teary-eyed right there in that middle school gymnasium. I was overcome with gratitude to be a citizen of this wonderful country. I know it's not perfect; it never will be--it's run by imperfect people. But it's my country and I get to have a say in which imperfect people call the shots. And that's really something wonderful.

8 Things Tag

My awesome friend, Kellie, tagged me for this one:
8 TV Shows I Love to Watch:

1. The Amazing Race
2. Dancing with the Stars
3. Samantha Who?
4. Jon and Kate Plus Eight
5. Pushing Daisies
6. Lost
7. The Office
8. Designed to Sell

8 Favorite Restaurants:

1. Red, Hot and Blue
2. Ram's Head
3. Red Lobster
4. Longhorn Steakhouse
5. Chipotle
6. Panera
Wow, I'm on the verge of fast food here, aren't I? I'm going to quit while I'm ahead and admit that I need to get out more. Basically, I love any food that I don't have to make myself; it always tastes better.

8 Things That Happened Yesterday:

1. Went to Quarterly Enrichment (a women's meeting at my church)
2. Thanked my Michael for cleaning out our fridge while I was gone (man, does it look GOOD!)
3. Went to a beautiful wedding at the temple
4. Laid in bed with Mackenna playing tickle games and squeezing her patootsky (it's so squishy!)
5. Got grumpy at my big kids for going out to play when their rooms weren't clean
6. Ran to Weis and bought some groceries
7. Went to the wedding reception for the lovely couple whose wedding I attended earlier
8. Came home at 10:00 p.m. to find all four children awake (Grr...)

8 Things I'm Looking Forward To:

1. Going to the So You Think You Can Dance show next week
2. Having the Fabulous Foursome to dinner in a couple weeks
3. Sharing a Thanksgiving feast at my brother-in-law's house/farm
4. Seeing Cirque du Soleil with Michael's siblings
5. Experiencing Christmas--decorating, baking, celebrating--with my family
6. Taking my kids to see Chitty Chitty Bang Bang, the Broadway tour
7. Getting a new microwave
8. Having no more election commercials on TV

8 Things on My Wish List:

1. New kitchen appliances (I legitimately need a few, so why not just get all new ones?)
2. New basement carpet
3. New family room furniture
4. Bedroom furniture
5. Kitchen remodel
6. New car for Michael
7. Tickets to see Mary Poppins on Broadway
8. Cruise with my Michael and the Oberings

8 People I'm Tagging:

1. Tracy
2. Whitney
3. Brenda
4. Sommer
5. Mary
6. Cari
7. Jann
8. Kellee